At a certain age it seems like you have to drink to be considered an adult. I can’t even remember now what that cut off date really is, but all of a sudden I look around and feel like I should sit at the kiddie table if I don’t have a drink in my hands. To me this seems like the opposite of what should be going on. Why does everyone around seem to ignore the reasons why my mom survival kit doesn’t include alcohol?
Don’t get me wrong. I’m no prude when it comes to the idea of having a drink or two. I’ve been known to be “drunk off my ass” a time or two. The difference I find though is that I pick and choose those moments more wisely than many of my counterparts. I guess part of it is because I definitely cannot keep up with the Jones’ when it comes to wine drinking or partying.
Nurture and not nature.
My family aren’t big drinkers. Actually when I think about it, I’m not sure if they were ever big drinkers and outgrew the habit or if it just wasn’t something they ever were into. Although there is a very entertaining story about my Grandmother getting into the Jungle Juice at my parents wedding, but that happens to be one of the only stories I can remember.
It wasn’t though that there wasn’t alcohol around. When my parents did “entertain” there was almost always strawberry daiquiris and a special non-alcoholic version for the kids, but it wasn’t the main attraction for the evening the way I see it being for some parents I know. No kids = drinking night. When did that become the norm?
My reasons for not being a big drinker really stem from the fact that in my early college years I went to a very small school and when we went out to party I always felt like I needed to make sure everyone got home alright at the end of the night. I guess I still am that way, although I have eased up a bit on my strict nature at these types of events in recent years.
Here are specifically my “mom” reasons for why I don’t drink too much these days:
1) I’m already tired enough without something that makes me more tired.
Moms of newborns are usually tired from the erratic feeding and sleeping schedules of their babies. My kids are almost 6 and 3. One might think that they would have grown out of that stage, but my children are “allergic to sleep”. Medically, of course, they are fine, but Hubby’s work schedule since they were born is crazy. It’s caused them, and me, to sleep at the most untimely moments.
You’ll come to find out more about this “condition” as you read future posts on this site. I’ve tried to get them to sleep a regular schedule but it never seems to stick for more than a few nights in a row. So if I’m up all night and then go to a party, why would I want to drink something that would make me even more sleepy than I already am.
Many people think that a little nightcap will help them sleep soundly through the night. Although alcohol’s sedative effects can make you drowsy, they also have other effects that can interfere with quality sleep.
Several hours after that nightcap, the alcohol raises the body’s level of epinephrine, a stress hormone that increases the heart rate and generally stimulates the body, which can result in nighttime awakenings. Indeed, alcohol may account for 10% of cases of persistent insomnia. Alcohol also relaxes throat muscles, and this relaxation can worsen sleep-related breathing problems and contribute to sleep apnea. What’s more, alcohol may increase the need to urinate during the night — just another way in which it can disrupt sleep.
Alcohol’s sedative quality can rob you of energy in another way. Drinking wine, beer, or hard liquor during the day can make you feel drowsy or lethargic. If you didn’t sleep well the night before, even one drink can make you drowsy, especially if you drink during one of your usual low-energy times — for example, midafternoon or late evening. — http://www.health.harvard.edu/
If Harvard says that it’s got bad effects I think I can be safe in my reason why my mom survival kit doesn’t include alcohol.
2) I’m designated driver 99% of the time.
Being a designated driver really has nothing to do with the legal effects of being pulled over by the cops.
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For me, I have an extreme responsibility complex.
I cannot bring myself to fully trust anyone to drive me home when they say they are only going to have a few drinks. Maybe it’s the after school special type programs I watched as a kid, or maybe I’m just paranoid, but I’d hate for the reason that I died in a car crash was because I was too drunk to drive home and the person with me was too.
There are better ways to die…right?
Clearly another logical reason why my mom survival kit doesn’t include alcohol.
3) Let’s face it: Alcoholic beverages are expensive.
I can’t tell you how many times I am amazed when we eat at a restaurant for lunch and then a few weeks later for dinner and see the difference in the amount of the bill! When I think about how much I could get an 18 pack of beer at the grocery store, versus what they charge coming from the bar, I want to throw up. It’s money out the window if you ask me!
Yet another practical reason why my mom survival kit doesn’t include alcohol.
4) A lot of alcohol tastes like rubbing alcohol.
I still haven’t gotten used to the taste of alcohol. I’m the proud owner of a very strong sweet tooth. This means that to me most alcohol tastes sour or bitter to me. It might be that I’m drinking the wrong stuff. Most of the drinks I do like are “fruity girly drinks”. Usually they are better when made by a professional. If you go back to the number 3 on this list, you’ll see why I don’t drink that often.
My taste for alcohol is expensive!
Maybe it’s a sign of me still being a little immature, or maybe I’m the nerdy girl who never will become a party girl, but I’d rather drink a high-octane caffeine drink like Mountain Dew or cappuccino rather than drink something with alcohol in it.
The fourth reason why my mom survival kit doesn’t include alcohol is just as practical and logical as the others, right?
So where does this leave me?
Clearly in a place where most of my peers look down on me. Actually in my extended family I’m pretty much the only one that doesn’t drink on a regular basis.
I’m secure enough in myself and my convictions. It doesn’t bother me to have a non-drinker label on me, considering the professional level drinkers I’m surrounded by. My “normal” of being a non-drinker is “abnormal” in their world. To each their own. I guess I’m too logical and I have too many good reasons why my mom survival kit doesn’t include alcohol.
Where do you stand?
What are your thoughts? Does your mom survival kit include alcohol?