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This is not a bait and switch post. I promise! Just keep reading and you’ll see the shocking ways piano music will make you better in bed.
When a newbie decides to meditate there is often the question that comes up… How do you meditate? How do you get to that spot where you let your mind rest enough to clear it completely?
When dealing with sleep:
- There are those who lay down to sleep and go to sleep
- There are those who lay in bed wide awake forever and rest, but do not sleep
Early on into my exploration of mediation I heard a podcast on how to meditate. The person explained that you should concentrate on the sound of your breath. There is a distinct sensation and sound as it moves in and out of your nose as you breathe. While yes, it’s important to keep your mind clear, beginners need to train themselves to do this. At first you should be forgiving to yourself and let your mind wander on whatever thoughts come to mind a little. To get back to the meditation focus again on that breathing sound/sensation. I tried it and really it’s a great way to keep your mind on task or rather off task and onto meditating.
Fast forward to the other night… I came home after a long day with the kids and being sick and knew I needed a little alone time. Due to the way of my universe, it wasn’t quite going to happen. Actually Hubby told me to go to sleep. If you know one thing about our relationship, Hubby fall asleep by the count of 6 and I take about an hour and a half to fall asleep. Compound that struggle with two kids who like to visit me throughout the night and you can see how sleep is not the easiest for me.
That night, with the buzz of the kids in their rooms still filling the hallway with noise, I knew I wouldn’t probably be able to get into full meditation mode. Thinking of trying to fight my brain into that mindset made the thought of meditation a task instead of what I wanted it to be: a mini-vacation. In truth, without the kids’ noise, Hubby probably would have asked what the hell was I doing if I lay in bed without moving for half hour or so.
Instead of battling my brain, the rowdy nature of the kids and Hubby’s strange looks, I decided to listen to some instrumental music instead of trying to meditate. I used to be a big fan of instrumental music. In fact when I had SIRIUS radio, I would listen to movie scores. If this sounds strange, it’s the background music that plays during movie scenes! BORING, right? Even back then though I knew the benefits of listening to relaxing music.
Anyway, I haven’t listened to music like that in a long time. I think the need for that soothing sound came from the fact that a few days before this I had gone and gotten a massage for the first time in about seven years. The relaxing spa music that was playing during my massage definitely was an inspiration for this music session at home.
Selfish as it sounds, I spent the next half hour pretending to be unavailable. Yes, I was only a few inches away from Hubby in bed. True, I was just down the hall from the kids. Since meditation can take you away from all of that, to me I was a million miles away.
Music Meditation was born!
Steps to Music Meditation:
- Get yourself some sort of instrumental music.
- I made a Jim Brickman Pandora channel. For those who haven’t heard of him, he’s a piano soloist who’s music is familiar to me from years ago, but I haven’t listened to in a while. I would tend to go for the more obscure songs.
- Definitely steer clear of music that is just an instrumental version of a song you know. You’ll start to sing the lyrics if you run across a song like this. Believe me. It happened twice with me in one session.
- Find a quiet-ish place to listen to your music, or if you have headphones turn up the volume so it can block out some of the distracting noises in the room.
- I tested this with a few songs and eventually found the right volume setting.
- Start to listen to your instrumental music.
- If you need to zone in on something to do with our wandering mind, start to say the notes to yourself. As they go up and down the piano keys or move across the orchestra you’re listening to repeat a sound word. The Dum dum dum da da da dum dum patterns will definitely give you something to do with yourself while you zone out the rest of your thoughts.
Truthfully I’m surprised at how many songs I got through. Actually one song was really great, It was Thad Fiscella Beauty of Grace from his album The Road Home. When I first heard this song I hadn’t looked at the album cover. I was shocked to find the image in my head was almost the same as the cover!
It was so great that I not only saw colors on the backs of my eyes. I saw this crazy scene like out of a movie. It’s hard to explain JUST WHAT my brain was thinking about in that moment, but it was almost as if I’d escaped into the song and left the kids and hubby behind for a few moments, which as everyone knows is something that Mommy needs if she’s going to survive her Mommy’s Mid-Life Quest and avoid a crisis.
**Note to music majors and musically inclined people: This may not be a relaxing method. Many musically inclined people might start to analyse the notes instead of enjoying them. For those who can ignore the structure of the piece of music, this might be a helpful method to meditate.
Now…onto the shocking ways piano music will make you better in bed:
Lullabies aren’t just for babies—they’re great for adults, too. Using soothing music to wind down before bed each night is perfectly acceptable—even encouraged—as a relaxation technique.
It turns out that bedtime listening can even help people with sleep disorders by boosting sleep quality and quantity. The benefits may not happen overnight—it can take as many as three weeks to see improvement—but listening to music pays off. Putting on some tunes can help you fall asleep faster, wake up less during the night, and feel more rested in the morning. Music can help sleepers of all ages, from toddlers through the elderly, at naptime and nighttime alike.
While the reasons why music can help you sleep better aren’t clear, it may have to do with the relaxing effect that a good song can have, or the fact that music may trigger feel-good chemicals in the brain. Music can have real physical affects, too, by lowering your heart rate and slowing your breathing. – Sleep.org
I have to admit, the title of this post may be a little misleading. It does explain just how amazing piano music will make you better in bed!
Have you ever experienced something like this? What type of music do you let you take you away from it all?
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