The title of this sounds pretty extreme, but don’t worry. This post isn’t here to scare you. However, It is an important subject.
Do you have a mom survival guide? If not, you should!
Less than a week later, even the most well taken care of moms are realizing that the glow of Valentine’s Day has worn off. All of us moms are back to the normal thank-less mom routine, right? Don’t let this slump get you down. This is a time to rely on your mom survival guide.
I have to admit I never did read the book What to Expect When You’re Expecting. I’ve heard this is a great book though and it continues to be a best seller on all the book charts. Why didn’t I read it? I’ve found in the last few years my attention span for books is very short. Not sure if it comes with the fact that I read probably 10,000 pages in my four year college, or due to becoming a mom myself, but it’s hard for me to read more than 50 or so pages at a time these days.
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Once baby is born there is a great book about sleep training. Twelve Hours’ Sleep by Twelve Weeks Old: A Step-by-Step Plan for Baby Sleep Success would have been an amazing book to have when my littles were first born. Sadly, I had so many complications in the first month after my daughter’s birth that I missed the mark on picking this one up. It’s probably why my kids are still having crazy sleep schedules and they are four and six years old.
There is no bigger issue for healthy infants than sleeping through the night. In this simple, straightforward book, Suzy Giordano presents her amazingly effective “Limited- Crying Solution” that will get any baby to sleep for twelve hours at night—and three hours in the day—by the age of twelve weeks old.
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I did however find some great things to read through in the
Truthfully, your Mom Survival Guide doesn’t need to be in physical form. It doesn’t have to be anything written down, but more of a memory bank of things to rely on to get you through the day.
All In This Together
Number one thing to remember is that we are all in this together. Other things to focus on to keep your sanity in your darkest mom days are:
- stay healthy mentally
- know your job description
- don’t try to reinvent the wheel
Your family will thank you if you can focus on these key elements and tuck them away in your mom survival guide for later.
I know a lot of my more strict christian friends shy away from meditation because of it’s Hindu and Buddhist religions. Fear not, you’re not straying from your Christian roots by trying meditation. If you have reservations about the practice, an alternative would be to:
- set aside 15-20 minutes to read passages from the bible
- sit still in one spot away from the kids and other distractions
This “stop and smell the roses” time, at least for me can be just as refreshing as a nap on some days.
If you haven’t read my post from last year on being a zookeeper, I recommend reading what is a comedic take on how similar a mom’s job description and a zookeeper’s job descriptions are. After writing this post I realized that I shouldn’t take motherhood so seriously. I don’t by any means think that you shouldn’t take the care of your children lightly, but if you can do it with a sense of humor and realize that all mothers are going through what you’re going through (and a few zookeepers out there too) you might have a little more fun with things!
Organize Your Life
Even with a light mood, organizational skills will save you a lot of sleepless nights. In Mommy Time Management Shouldn’t Be Complicated, I explain how I use Google Calendar to help me remember all the appointments, school schedules and sports schedules for my kids.
Don’t stop with a Calendar.
I’ve recently started to use Grocery Gadget to streamline my grocery shopping lists and Wunderlist for my electronic to-do list as well as a paper planner using the Bullet Journal method. This all may sound like a lot of things, but really each just helps me keep track of my life since in those early mommy days the lack of sleep really is a killer of your memory.
Be Open to Advice
The thing I think all moms need to repeat over and over again is to listen to all the advice that comes your way. You may not use all of it, but at least listen to it and tuck it away in your Mom Survival Guide for later. You may find something that works well for you and your family from the most unlikely place!
- When you have a 1-2 year old who likes to take off their diaper… take a pair of feetie pajamas and cut the feet off. Zip them into the pajamas backwards and you basically have locked them into their clothes!
- When your child refuses to go to school. Tell them they have to go to school to tell the teacher. This has worked 100% of the time for my preschooler.
Do you have any tricks you use with your kids that you think ALL MOMS SHOULD KNOW? Share them in the comments!